We all have those days where we are counting down the minutes until bedtime. I know I do, and some days are harder than others. With Joe traveling a lot for his job, I find myself at the end of the day, exhausted. Raising three children under five can take it’s toll, kudos to those moms that can do it on their own. I know I can’t. When Joe’s gone, I realize how much I rely on him for the littlest things. I seem to hold a “mom guilt,” so to say, of being a little harsher than I usually would if I had set time for myself throughout the day to take care of me.
If you feel like you have too much to do, and little time to do it, you have come to the right place. Whatever title you hold whether it be A Mom, Dad, Caretaker, Traveler, Wife, chef, housekeeper, Chauffer, Tutor, Nurse, Planner, Writer, Etc. I know your days can be overwhelming, and if you need to take a break, a breather, please know that it is OK.
Here are a few tips on how to prevent feeling overwhelmed and a few self-care tips that I take when I need a minute.
Easy tips to keep yourself from becoming overwhelmed:
1. Slow Down, and be still. Simplifying your life will help you realize not to put too much on your plate.
2. Know your Strength and Forgive yourself. It’s so easy to add pressure on yourself and try to do too many things at once. It’s ok not to be able to do it all. Embrace your imperfections.
3. Do not overthink situations. There will be times when a given situation is out of your control, learn to let go.
4. Stay away from Negative people. We all know those people who always see the bad in something. Learn to distance yourself from them, and see the positivity in every situation.
5. Just know you are enough. Your worth is more valuable than you think.
Get Some Fresh Air
What’s better than taking a walk and getting lost in your thoughts? For me, whenever I seem I can’t catch up, I like to take a walk whether it be to the park, or just to the mailbox. It’s the exact definition of “taking a breather.”
Get Organized and Set a schedule
Do you ever feel like you have too much to do, you don’t know where to start? This is why setting a schedule is so important! When you have a schedule to go by, you can maintain your duties, and with that, your life will be more organized. Organization is key to feeling less overwhelmed.
One rule of thumb: DO NOT OVER SCHEDULE YOURSELF. Spread out all your duties with a course of a few days. Write a to-do list, and pick 2-4 most important things on that list and add them to your schedule, the rest of the “not as important” things, schedule them throughout your week. I.E. I have seven things that need to be done, I pick the first 2 or 3 (MAX) things and add them to my Monday schedule, everything else I schedule throughout the rest of the week. This helps me declutter my schedule.
Work in the quiet
For me, I feel the most calm when there is quietness. Without any background noise (Tv, Music, Etc), I find that I can concentrate better. This also means I get most tasks done when or if my children are either napping or sleeping for the night.
take time to unplug and be present
It’s pretty easy for us to get caught up with being on our phones and computers. From experience, when I’m using my phone to work or even scroll through social media, and my kids are in the background either asking me a question or whatever the case may be. I feel overwhelmed. I notice a huge difference in my demeanor when I am present in any situation. So, staying away from my phone and turning off the TV, I can enjoy my family, and it helps me get a lot more things done when I’m not sidetracked. This doesn’t mean I never check my phone or we never watch Tv, because we do. We just take less time out of our day for it. Like when the kids are done with lunch we can sit and relax for a while. (This is the hardest thing to do, but I challenge you to try this and let me know how much of a difference this makes).
Wake up before your entire household
Call me crazy, but I wake up every morning (besides weekends) at 5:00 am! Waking up early and having time to plan your day and to self-reflect or even just saying a daily prayer. Preparing yourself for the day in peace and quiet helps you feel confident that your day will go great. If you are looking for a Morning routine, you can read my blog post on My personal morning routine for a more successful day as a homemaker click here!
Take time for yourself
Taking time for yourself is so important. It’s so easy to lose ourselves in everyday life, whether it be our Job, our kids, our hobbies, or our school work. We all need a little time to ourselves to do things that we enjoy doing. For me, I like to spend my nights, after the kids are asleep, Reading some great books and writing on my blog. Right now, I am currently reading Kail Lowry, from teen mom 2’s, new book Hustle & Hart.
Today, I am so excited to be joining Kail Lowry for a Virtual Book Tour in honor of her new book Hustle & Heart! If you’re in the Baltimore area, you can meet Kail in person at her book signing March 25th at noon at John Hopkins University Barnes and Noble! Be sure to visit these other awesome posts from this virtual blog tour, listed below!